- March 28, 2016
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I lost my husband Randy to ALS two years ago this week. I have been having a difficult time the last few weeks and I really couldn’t put my finger on the reason why. I think about and miss Randy every day but I truly thought I was coming out of the grief haze and on a clear path forward.
However, not having experienced this type of grief before, I now realize there is no clear path forward. It’s more like an obstacle course.
Knowing that I will be living with a hole in my heart for the rest of my life, I had to take some time to figure out my next steps at this point in my journey. Here’s what I have come up with:
Last evening I was talking to my neighbor. She had lost her son after a short, unexpected illness this past summer. As we were standing in my kitchen, I asked her how she was doing. She began crying for a moment but then regained her composure. She said to me: “My son is gone but I need to live my life.” It’s exactly how I feel. And that is what I am going to do.
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